Mondays at The Variegated Life: links to some stuff I’ve liked. Though in truth I lost track of some the stuff I liked last week. Ah, well …
Maternalselves is a new-ish blog on feminist mothering that I learned about via blue milk; in it, bloggers Lucila and Natalia post academic reviews of articles and books related to feminism and mothering as well as more personal reflections on their experiences as feminist mothers. Last week, Natalia argued that society should recognize — and support — the fluidity and variability of women’s aspirations:
I have the feeling that in our society the message is that either you’re fully productive or you stay at home, because people half here and half there are not wanted. This doesn’t mean that I don’t support women who want to work full time and have their children. I don’t want to sound like a fundamentalist stay-at-home mum who thinks that the best thing is to stay with your children and give up your job. I would go nuts if I stayed with E. 24 hours a day. The problem for me is the difficulty of capturing women’s expectations when these expectations are so changeable.
For example, a woman in her twenties might want to study maths, get a PhD and work at a university, but after having children she might want to stop working for three years and return to her full-time career five years later; whereas another woman in the same position might want to keep on with her career despite having children. So, how can all these expectations can be recognised and respected?
Good gosh, yes. After all, aren’t most of us making it up as we go along, anyway? Just as Nancy Davis Kho is, for example, as described in a guest post at Working Moms Break, wherein she tells about the various work schedules she’s forged for herself since the birth of her first child.
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Kianga Ellis visited my husband’s studio a few weeks ago, and I forgot to link to her video from their conversation! (How sick and sad: this video is as close as I’ve gotten to his studio in a shamefully long, long time.) Kianga is also raising funds for a group show here in New York City; if you’re interested in learning more and pledging, click here.
Speaking of art, in a guest post at Code Name: Mama, Laura Grace Weldon offers suggestions for introducing even the very youngest children to the arts — the “frigging idiot way,” as she calls it. You have to read the post to understand why she calls it that. The frigging brilliant way, I say.
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At Apprentice Mumsy, mumsyjr reflects on five years of mothering — and her discovery that, at last, she can answer the question, “What the [frack] do I wear?” I’m really hoping to be able to answer that my question myself, and soon.
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