After writing this post about the need to maintain boundaries, in which I noted that I lie to myself all the time, this post at Seth’s Blog struck a nerve with me, especially because more often than not, when I tell a little lie (to myself or others), I actually think I’m telling the truth. Whereas really what I’m doing is operating according to some sort of magical thinking where by expressing a wish (Oh, you want that all done by Friday? Sure, I can do that! Absolutely!) I can make it so. This week I realized that this magical thinking is based on a big, pernicious lie I tell myself: that I can be Supermom. You know, the mom who DOES IT ALL and HAS IT ALL, including a clean house? OK, when necessary, I can be Supermom (except for having the clean house). But not all the time. Think about it: most of the time, even Superman is going about under the guise of Clark Kent. He uses his superpowers only when needed.
So, lessons learned this week: thinking about everything all of the time is paralyzing, I can’t be Supermom all of the time anyway, and sometimes the best thing I can do is toss out my plans altogether.